7 Reasons Why You'll Never Find Your Husband or Wife on Tinder

January 31, 2015
Sounds harsh right? Okay, let me explain.

To start, I will go over briefly what Tinder is for any reasons who are not familiar. Tinder is a dating app (usually linked to Facebook) that allows you to look through all of the single people on Tinder in your area and decide whether or not you find them attractive. If you find them attractive you swipe right. If you don't find them appealing you swipe left. If you both swipe right, then it is a match and you are able to have a chat and possibly set up a date. If you swipe right but the other person swipes left, then there is no chance for you to talk to see if you are a match. I obviously don't have a Tinder, but I have several friends who do. From their experiences plus the several experiences found on YouTube, I have come up with 7 reasons why you will more than likely not find your husband or wife on Tinder:

1. Some People Are Not Photogenic Or Are Too Photogenic
I personally am not photogenic, so the thought of Tinder and Instagram absolutely terrify me. I am sure that there are several other terrified souls out there that feel the same way and either don't get a Tinder or get swiped to the left mercifulessly. On the other hand, some people can always find their good angle and right light that makes them look like gifts from God...until you see them in person.
2. Tinder Makes People Cynical
Tinder is fun and exciting until you realize that there are people out there just like you who are swiping your picture to the left. After this realization, some people may think that everyone in the world is superficial and that they will never find true love. Luckily, this is not the case!
3. People Be Lyin'
So every 20-something year old guy just happens to have a purse-sized puppy that you find adorable, is 6 feet tall and likes Taylor Swift? Give me a break.
4. You Only See What They Want You To See
Tinder is probably a dream come true for "showboaters" around the world. On Tinder, if you put one picture of you volunteering in Guatemala, you are a humanitarian. If you want people to think that you are an intellectual, snap a selfie of you in the library. Want to seem like a cool yet spiritual hipster? Leave an earthy, abstract quote about life in your bio. The list of manipulation goes on.
5. You Don't Know Who Else They Are Talking Too
So, I found the inspiration for this next point on YouTube. Apparently, there was this guy who was talking to a group of girl friends at the same time and didn't even know it. The crazy thing is that his seemingly genuine conversations were nothing more than copied and pasted phrases that he used with every girl. It would suck to know that you were just another girl on his list that he just copied and pasted with in conversation.
6. You Don't Know Their True Intentions
Tinder is technically a dating app, though it has gotten the nickname of "Grindr for straight people" (Grindr is a hook-up app for people of the same sex). Imagine going on a date with someone who you thought wanted a relationship, but was really under the impression that you were an easy lay.
7. Humans Are Not Programmed For Tinder
As a biologist, I know that there are several aspects that factor into an animal's attraction for another animal (yes, humans are animals!). Though physical attraction is a very important aspect, it is not the only aspect. What about pheremonal attraction (the chemicals that our bodies secrete), eye contact? Or the confidence they exude in the way that they walk? Tinder doesn't fully factor in a person's sarcasm or quirky twitches that you can't help but like. You could have just swiped away the person that just gets you and matched with the biggest douchebag/golddigger you could ever meet. 

Tinder is great if you are just looking for a casual date with someone attractive, but don't depend on it to find the love of your life.

Anything that you would add to the list? 

Brown Love Stories: Mimi and Reau

January 30, 2015
Hello, everyone! I am excited to present to you a wonderful couple that I have had the pleasure of interviewing, Mimi and Reau. I met Mimi through her lifestyle blog Mimi Cute Lips. What a beautiful example of black love. I hope that you enjoy!

1. Names (Hers and His) 
Mimi & Reau

2. Ages (Hers and His) 
35 & 36

3. Length of relationship 
We’ve been together 11 years

4. How did you two meet? 
We met on a mutual friend’s message board online. We had friends in common but didn’t know one another.

5. What makes your relationship "quirky" or unique? 
We are naturally silly and like to have a good time. We work hard, but we play hard too. We are comfortable in our relationship and we are free to be our true selves. No matter how ridiculous that might be at times.

6. What is one quirky habit that you have learned about him?
He loves to lounge around the house in his motorcycle gear. Yes, this means his helmet, one piece letter and or riding boots.

7. What is one quirky habit that you have learned about her? 
She has a fear of hair, toes and chewing gum.

8. Quirkiest moment and/or adventure?
We went to Puerto Rico in 2011 on a baby moon for kid number 2. I was determined to go to a rain forest to see a real waterfall. We rented a car and they gave us a Toyota, Prius. We set out to find this rain forest (waterfall) via GPS. The adventure started out cool; we got to see the non-tourist parts of Puerto Rico. After driving for some time we found ourselves inside the rain forest driving on a 2 lane dirt road. On each side was a major cliff, I’m talking you fall off and flip 30 times before you hit the ground but nobody is going to ever find you type of cliff. The entire time our ears are popping as we go further up this mountain. Lol There were horses walking along side our car so close I could touch them. It was just crazy, so funny, yet such a beautiful experience. We would later find the waterfall AFTER we left the rain forest and were headed back to the hotel. hahahah
9. What will the back cover or your love story read? 
We came, we saw, we conquered and we made it look easy.

Make sure to check out Mimi's blog as well as her social media sites.

Don't Give Up On That Dream

January 29, 2015
Quirky, Brown Love | Don't Give Up On That Dream
So it is harder than you thought it would be?

In your mind, if it was meant to be, it should have been easier for you to achieve. Maybe you have had a few road blocks, such as financial trouble, not doing well on an admissions test or missing a deadline that you set for yourself. It's okay to fail. It's okay to fail more than once, twice, thrice, etc. It's also okay to be afraid and cry about it. 

So how do you know if you should give up on your dream? Just know that you were given this passion for a reason and if you really feel that you have put a true effort towards this goal, don't give up just yet. Instead of going straight into your dream, maybe there are still a few things that the universe has to teach you first. Are you mature enough to handle the responsibilities that come with this dream? Have you actually experienced life before you thrust yourself into this all-consuming step? 

When you look back at your life, would you really be happy living a linear life like you have planned in your notebook?

In physics, there is a difference between distance (a scalar quantity) and displacement (a vector). When calculating distance, you take into consideration the distance from your starting line per period of time. This includes every wrong turn, every backtrack and even if you walk back to the starting line. Displacement, however, only looks at the starting line and the final destination. All of your wrong turns, backtracks and complete start-overs are all forgiven, as long as you make it to your personal finish line. 
Quirky, Brown Love | Don't Give Up On That Dream
So how are you living your life? Are you about to give up on your dream because your are afraid that you won't make it to your finish line? Did that wrong turn or setback make you question the course that you are taking? Setbacks can be so discouraging, but remember where you started and where you are now. If your dream was suppose to be easy, everyone would be doing it, but that is not the case. 

You have come to far from that start line to just give up now.

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