The Introverted Entrepreneur's Guide To Finding Your Most Confident Self Image This Fall Season

November 29, 2016
Thank you Colgate® Optic White® for sponsoring this post.
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Fall is probably the busiest season for creative entrepreneurs everywhere. With the holidays right around the corner, we are all hustling like worker bees to increase our income and provide meaningful content and products for our consumers.

This is honestly the time of year that I struggle the most with staying motivated. With it being so close to the new year, I honestly start to get lazy with my goals for the current year and I usually don’t get this motivation back until the first day of January. Anyone who is an entrepreneur knows how unproductive this outlook can be and your bank account definitely starts to show it! As an introvert who would rather be home than out trying to promote my  brand at somebody’s networking event, I’ve been working hard at pushing myself beyond my comfort zone. I’m lucky to have a majority of both extroverted and vivacious friends (because really, imagine a bunch of timid introverts in a car together...it would never happen because we would never leave the house!) , so I have been asking them for advice on how they stay motivated to face the world every day.

From the advice that I have gathered, most people say that your morning ritual is a key part in setting up your confidence for the rest of the day. 
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This completely makes sense, as I can tell a difference in how I feel on days that I have taken time in the morning versus days that I wake up late and rush out of the door. In a world where your image is your lasting impression, it is so important to have a positive self-image. As important as this is, it is something that I have always struggled with from a young age and even now. A negative self-image has caused me to cower away from opportunities that I didn’t feel like I was deserving of and has caused me to hide away in certain situations. 

Recently; however, I’ve decided that enough is enough. Life is not promised and I don’t want to waste any more time not feeling amazing about myself.  I’ve been revamping my morning routine and this has definitely been helping me stay confident throughout the day, which in turn has resulted in me being confident in my abilities for my business. If you are struggling with your morning routine, here are some guidelines that I’m following to find my most confident self-image this Fall season.
1.Start the day off with affirmations
Doing affirmations first thing in the morning has completely changed my paradigm. I’m not sure why, but saying encouraging things to myself in the mirror really helps me boost my confidence. Having someone say that they believe in me, even if that person is just me, is so powerful to the way that I feel about myself. For any entrepreneurs out there, here are some affirmations that I say to get myself through the day:

Someone out there is waiting for you to walk in your purpose in life.
Today will be another day closer to you discovering your purpose.
You are more than enough exactly as you are and your desire to advance yourself is healthy.
You are more than capable of accomplishing your purpose in life. I believe in you.

After I say my affirmations, I try to take some time to reflect on all that I have already accomplished (even on days that my bank account disagrees with me).
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2. Revamp your routine for body maintenance
Taking a few extra minutes to make sure that your hygiene game is on point is a must. Recently, I’ve done an evaluation of the products that I have been using and made the decision to revamp my cabinets with higher quality, more nourishing products. Instead of using the cheapest soaps, I’ve been investing in artisan soaps and have also been buying a more moisturizing and natural lotion. 

Another thing that I have incorporated into my body maintenance routine is the Colgate® Optic White® Toothbrush + Whitening Pen. I have to admit guys...this season has turned me into a super basic girl. I finally tried a pumpkin spice latte to see what all of the hype was about, and I’ve been drinking them non-stop. In all honestly, I “fell in like”  with them a few seasons ago, but it’s like they have revamped the recipe or something! 

Anyways, with coffee drinking comes teeth yellowing which is a curse for someone who doesn’t like to show their teeth in the first place. I’ve been using the  Colgate® Optic White® Toothbrush + Whitening Pen for  about a week now and it has definitely been helping me become more confident in my smile. This product whitens teeth 5 shades in three weeks – and I actually got a compliment on my smile the same day that I first used it (though it was a guy, so he could have just been trying to holla). 
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As a bit of a tech nerd, I was actually excited to receive this product because of the engineering that went into making it. The whitening pen tucks into the bottom of the toothbrush, so it is super easy to keep up with, is very easy to clean up. I also thought that it was cool that I could literally paint the whitening gel on my teeth with the pen and go on with my day since it dries almost immediately with no mess.
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3. Incorporate the little things that you’ve been saying you were going to do forever
For me, I have been saying that I was going to start reading for pleasure again; however, I always make the excuse that I don’t have enough time. Recently, I have been forcing myself to make time in the morning and it has helped me feel so accomplished. In the midst of checking my emails or scheduling my articles, I will set my phone timer for 10 minutes and dedicate my time to reading a motivational book. These 10 minutes of doing something that I didn’t think I could fit into my schedule makes me feel like I have my life a little bit more in order. I know that it is small but it shows me that I can accomplish my goals, even if it is just little by little.

4. Dress in a way that reflects the person that you aspire to be
I really want to transform into a more bold person, while also keeping my laid-back, bohemian vibe. I know that this is going to sound super lame, but I really do admire people who can just walk out the house and face the world head on, while speaking their way out of any situation. Until I reach that point, I’ve been trying to at least dress the part. I’ve been starting a cool collection of interesting pieces that I can add to my current wardrobe, such as this rich  colored scarf, my asymmetrical dress and these cool wooden sunglasses.
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Well, these are the ways that I am working on myself this Fall season. How are you staying confident as we work our way into the new year?

I was selected for this opportunity as a member of  CLEVER and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

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7 Ways To Create The Life You Want On Your Own Terms + Free Your Mind Writing Challenge

November 24, 2016
Have you ever felt like your life was on autopilot as if you’re going through the motions of life just existing without a plan?

Tell me if this scenario sounds familiar...

You wake up feeling overwhelmed because once again you hit the snooze button one too many times and now you’re rushing trying to get everyone out of the house in less than an hour. You’re fussing at the kids because they’re moving too slow (because you woke up late) and you can’t afford for them to miss their school bus or you’ll be late to work. There’s no time for breakfast so everyone has to grab something and get out of the house quickly. You rush to work praying that you don’t get caught in traffic. Thankfully you make it just in time for your 8-hour shift. Once the clock hits 5pm you rush home to get the kids from aftercare because they get out of school before you get off work.

By the time you get home, you’re exhausted, but you have to cook dinner, help the kids with their homework, prepare for baths and bedtime just to do it all over again the next day.

Does this sound like your life? This was similar to my life a few years ago. I was literally repeating the same routine day in and day out. I was anxious for Friday to come and dreading Sunday because I knew I would have to start the routine all over again.

I was simply existing going through the motions of life without a purpose. 

I would often think to myself that there had to be more to my life than being a wife, mother, an employee, etc. Everyone was getting my time, but me. I felt unfulfilled and discontent. I was stuck! 

From the outside looking in it may have seemed like I had it all together a “good” job, family, house, car but yet here was an emptiness that I felt inside because I wasn’t really living life, I was simply existing in it. 
When I was a kid I had so many dreams of what I wanted to do when I grew up and at some point adult life hit me and the dreams I once had got buried deep inside me. 

I desired to know my purpose and do work that would make a positive impact in the lives of others. I realized that I was 100% responsible for my life and that if I wanted to be free, I needed to create a life that felt good to me inside and out.  

Everyone’s self-discovery journey will look different but there are at least seven things I want you to consider as you start to think about how you want to show up in the world.  I also want to invite you to take a free writing challenge to help you get started with gaining clarity of your life. 

Get clear about what you want 
There are so many people walking around who have no idea what they want for their life. They’ve accepted someone else’s idea of what they should be doing but haven’t taken the time to think about what they really want. If you feel like you should be doing more with your life, but you’re unsure where to start, answer the following questions during your journal time. 
  • What makes you come alive?
  • What do you want most for your life ?
  • What don’t you want for your life?
  • What are you most passionate about? 
  • What steps are you willing to take today to start moving forward? 

Visualize your ideal life 
Ok, this may seem a little woo-woo but just follow me. When you think about your life in the future, what do you want to be doing, who do you want to be spending time with, how do you want to feel? Visualizing your future self is just like the law of attraction, dreaming about what you want and then that dream becoming your reality. You can speak it out loud, write about it, whatever you choose, it’s you setting intentions and letting the universe know what you want to experience in your life.

Shift your mindset
This is huge because I’m a firm believer that thoughts become things. Many people are so consumed by their negative thoughts that it’s hard to see past their current situation. Begin to shift your mindset and affirm the person you want to become. Recite positive affirmations throughout the day that will empower and encourage you. Don’t allow negative thoughts to settle in your mind when you notice them immediately start thinking of something positive. 

Believe in yourself 
No dream is too big. No goal is too far out of reach. If you believe with everything that you have that your dreams are possible, then they will be. Limit the negative self-talk and know that no matter what you are good enough and you don’t need validation from others. Stretch yourself and believe that you have what it takes to live the life you desire for yourself. 

Create goals that align with your vision 
Once you get clear about what you want then create goals that align with the vision that you have for your life. Make sure that your goals are SMART (specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, timely) and lastly map out a plan on how you’re going to make your goals happen. 

Practice gratitude  
In everything that you do be grateful. It’s easy to focus on the things that you don’t have but that will get you nowhere. Be grateful for every experience and embrace your journey. No matter what’s going on in your life, there’s always something that you can be grateful for. I like to keep a gratitude journal, daily I write down 3-5 things that I am grateful for each day. It helps me keep everything in perspective. 

Find your girl squad/tribe 
Surround yourself with positive energy. When you’re changing your life you need a support system that will cheer for you and encourage you on your journey. You can build your squad online and/or offline. I have best friends that have been in my life for 20+ years and I’ve also built some great relationships with women that I met online. You want to connect with individuals who have similar interest as you so that you have people in your corner that will celebrate with you when you’re winning and encourage you when you’re feeling down. 

Do the work
Of course, nothing that I shared today will mean anything if you don’t do the work. 
Make a commitment to yourself that you will put forth the effort every single day to create the life you envision for yourself because you are worth it. 

The journey to creating the life you want won’t be easy because if it was everyone would be doing it. Your journey is YOUR journey. Embrace it and don’t get caught up in comparing your life to someone else’s. Live your life! 

Join the 7-Day Free Your Mind Writing Challenge that will help you start the journey to creating the life you want by journaling your experiences. 

*Written by Siobhan of BeFreeProject.com

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