Dating While Creating: Addressing The Struggle In Entrepreneurship

by Susan Caleb
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You are doing what you love, and crushing it. You’re meeting your deadlines (well, sometimes) and coming up with great products/content. Your schedule is a little hectic, but it’s all good, because you are ROCKING this entrepreneur thing! 

Your excitement quickly dies down when you realize that the entrepreneur thing is the only thing being rocked these days. And without a missed beat, Brian McKnight’s starts singing in your head, and it hits you—it’s been six months, eight days, twelve hours since you’ve had a date. This. Can’t. Be. Life…

As a creative entrepreneur, I knew that I would have to make some sacrifices to get to where I wanted to be, but it never dawned on me that I’d ever have to pencil in time to date. Seriously. I remember the days when I would use the “I’m busy” excuse to get out of a date. Now, I find myself actually being busy…honestly didn’t see that one coming.
The truth is, learning to balance business and dating is a struggle for a lot of single entrepreneurs. And there are several reasons why.

1.We don’t have the time (or the energy) to play games.
Remember the days when a guy would text you and you would spend time trying to figure out what he meant by what he said? Or when you would snoop around on Facebook to make sure he wasn’t lying when he told you he was single? Well now, “ain’t nobody got time fadat”! As entrepreneurs, we have a million things competing for our attention. Which means it’s a lot harder to devote time and energy into figuring out who the good guys are.

2. We have a hard time turning the creative switch off.
As creatives, we are always…well…creating. We don't have an off switch. There will always be crazy ideas running through our heads that we just have to jot down, important emails that we have to check, and deadlines that have to be met. Which makes it difficult for us to give our full attention to the guy we’re dating—no matter how hard we try.

3.Not every guy/girl understands the hustle.
There are times when we genuinely want to date, but get discouraged because the guy/girl we like doesn’t get why we’re so passionate about what we do, or why we spend so much time doing it.

4. It’s hard for us to prioritize.
For most entrepreneurs—especially those of us who are just starting out—prioritizing can often be a huge issue. I mean, we know that maintaining relationships is important, but getting our careers off the ground is also a pretty big deal.
It isn’t always easy for us to figure out which should come first, or how to give one attention without neglecting the other. So what’s the solution?

1. Talk it out
Communication is a major key to any successful relationship. Sometimes it helps to open up and explain to the other person that you’re genuinely interested in them, but are still trying to figure out how to balance everything. Not every guy will get it, but if he’s worth getting to know, he will at least try to understand.

2. Realize that there is more to life than your job
When you are really passionate about what you do, sometimes it feels as if it is the only thing that exists, but it isn’t. There is actually people, places, and things around you. Take time to enjoy them. Be intentional about scheduling time to be social. And while you’re out don’t check emails, or do any other work stuff for that matter.

3.Don’t waste your time on someone who doesn’t support your goals
Dating someone who is both driven and supportive is so important! If he doesn’t support you and push you to do your best, then he isn’t the one for you.

Balancing business and life is never easy, but because you’re you, you’ll find a way to make it work, and you’ll rock at it.

Trust the process. Keep working towards being the best you, you can be. The right person will want to come along for the journey!

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