Release Tension From Lower Back, Hips and Thighs With This Simple Yoga Pose

February 26, 2015
Yoga: Release Tension From Lower Back, Hips and Thighs With This Simple Yoga Pose

Hello, everyone! During the Quirky, Fit and Fabulous Challenge, I will be bringing you several guest posts from bloggers to help teach you new things and to inspire you on your journey to become 'Quirky, Fit and Fabulous' this year! Meet our guest blogger, Adeola from SHE GOT HER OWN as she shows you a yoga pose that will help you relieve tension.

Zendaya's Dreads: Giuliana Rancic's Comments Show Why Black Women and Men Feel The Need To Assimilate

February 26, 2015

My first reaction to the picture above is, "Wow. Zendaya is stunning." Unfortunately, Giuliana Rancic, host of E!'s Fashion Police thinks otherwise. 

After the Oscars, Rancic said on Fashion Police that she did not think that the dreads complimented Zendaya and that the 18 year old looks like she smells of "patchouli oil or weed". This comment from Rancic has caused people on social media to go up in arms against the E! host and has sparked an apology video from Rancic a few days after the show aired.

Some supporters of Giuliana Rancic believe that her comments were not racist and that she was just making a harmless joke that had nothing to do with race. After Zendaya responded to Giuliana's comment, Giuliana rebuttled saying that she was referring to a "bohemian look" and her comments had nothing to do with race. Why, however, did Giuliana praise Kylie Jenner's ungroomed dreads calling her "edgy" and a "style chameleon"?

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It's comments like this that show why black women and men feel the need to assimilate to white culture in certain settings. When I heard these comments made to Zendaya, all that I could think about were my young school years and having to explain to my non-Black classmates that I was not dirty just because I didn't have to wash my hair everyday and that 'yes, I could straighten my hair if I wanted to without it burning off'. Even now, with thick and kinky bra-strap length hair, I feel like I am a display at a museum every time that I wear my hair out in a style that is not in a bun or straightened. People always want to touch and pet my hair and say comments like 'oh, it feels like a sponge!' and 'your hair is just so different'. Unfortunately, I expect comments like these and they don't really phase me anymore; however, when I first made the decision to stop using a relaxer for my hair and cut it all off, it was the scariest moment of my life. 

Why was I afraid to wear my hair in a state that was given to me by birth? It wasn't that I didn't love myself or love my hair. I was honestly afraid of the reactions that I'd get from others with having a hairstyle that was not straight and 'normal'. As my hair grew out, I wore it in very groomed, shaped-up hairstyles and once it got to a certain length, I would put my hair in small twists and put my hair into a bun. Most people could tell that my hair was in twists, but others thought that my hair was in dreads. 

After wearing that hairstyle for a while, I noticed that the way people addressed me was different. White guys would try to 'relate' to me by saying things like 'yo', 'fa shizzle' and 'so, you like Bob Marley?' I constantly felt like people didn't give me the respect that I deserved and instead treated me like I was one of the 'home girls' even in professional settings  (at the time, I was doing biomedical research for metastasis in breast cancer, so respect was everything).

For those who think that hair has nothing to do with race, maybe you don't realize that before most black women and men go for job interviews, they have to consider as a top priority whether or not their natural hairstyle will be accepted at work. Many question whether or not they should just wait until they are accepted and tenured before they can stop straightening and damaging their hair so that their non-Black coworkers can feel comfortable.
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I can only imagine how Zendaya, a young 18 year old girl living in a self-proclaimed progressive and post-racial society, must have felt when she received backlash the one-time that she did not wear her hair straight. I wonder how other girls who grew up watching Zendaya now must feel about their hair knowing that not even a young celebrity can wear her hair in a natural style without receiving criticism nationwide. What does Giuliana's comments say about other greats in Hollywood with dreads? Do Ava DuVernay and Ledisi (two well-established and well awarded women with dreads in Hollywood) look like they smell like weed too? If so, what does this say about the several black doctors lawyers, professors, researchers, bankers and CEOs who wear dreads? 

The sad thing is that Giuliana Rancic only voiced what a lot of other people may already think. If you go back and watch the video, Kathy Griffin also suggested that Zendaya smelled like weed after Giuliana's initial statements. No other host (other than Kelly Osbourne) tried to stand up for Zendaya or say that those comments were wrong until they themselves received backlash. 

Did you know that according to Us Weekly, the Zendaya segment was filmed three times before we saw the edited version? THREE TIMES in front of a studio audience and the producers still thought that this was okay to say? It only makes me wonder what the previous three takes said.

What are your thoughts on this situation? How do we move forward?

Brown Love Stories: Carissa and Darrick

February 18, 2015
Joyous day, everyone! I am honored to introduce to you the amazing couple, Carissa and Darrick. You may know Carissa from her insanely popular and inspirational blog, The Green Eyed Lady. I am so happy that I got the chance to sit down and interview their love story. What a beautiful example of black love. Hope that you enjoy!

1. Names (Hers and His) 
Carissa and Darrick

2. Ages ( Hers and His) 
Carissa is 30 and Darrick is 38
3. Length of relationship 
We have been together total of 6 years, and on May 26, 2015 we will celebrate our 3rd Wedding Anniversary

4. How did you two meet? 
Darrick and I have known each other all our lives literally. We grew up together in the same church. But we started talking via Facebook…he sent me a message complimenting me on my blog and we hit it off from there. 

5. What makes your relationship "quirky" or unique? 
Our friendship…we truly are the best of friends!! We love to laugh and joke with each other, and during the hardest times these are the things that keep us going. 

6. What is one quirky habit that you have learned about him? 
Darrick loves jalapeño peppers on EVERYTHING! If he falls asleep when we are talking he wakes up and apologizes…every time! His hats and shoes have to match…so whatever color his hat is, he has on the matching shoes. 

7. What is one quirky habit that you have learned about her? 
Carissa doesn’t like for her feet to be touched, she never has on matching socks unless she is wearing a pair of mine.
8. Quirkiest moment and/or adventure? 
Darrick and I started off pretty quirky…we were talking on the phone before we went on our first date and we talked about meeting at Applebees for dinner and drinks. We discussed two locations, and the time to meet (not sure why I didn’t tell him to pick me up). So when I got to the restaurant I walked in and looked around the restaurant, I didn’t see him so I called and asked him where he was he said he was sitting at the bar. I told him I didn’t see him, he said Im sitting right here when you walk in. Something told me to ask him which location he was at, and he was at one location and I was at the other. He told me to sit there and he would be on his way. So I am often reminded of going to the wrong restaurant on our first date. 

9. What will the back cover or your love story read. 

Friends Forever…Lovers for Eternity 

Make sure to check out Carissa's blog, as well as to follow her on social media!


Quirky, Brown Life Icon: Stephanie Nnamani aka Teff, The Don

February 17, 2015
Quirky, Brown Life Iconsomeone who lives their life beyond the norm that is expected of them based on society's expectations. An inspiration, a breath of fresh air and a cool chick all around.

Meet Stephanie. Born in Nigeria and raised in both London and New York, Stephanie has made a name for herself in the fashion blogging and photography industry. She is the girl that everyone follows on Tumblr and everyone loves on Instagram. She goes by a different alias, Teff "The Don" Fonzarelli; the "teff" is short for her first name. When asked in an interview to describe what makes her unique, she said "Others tend to see my unique quality more vividly than I do. I would  say my daring spirit, but there are other daring spirits. " Stephanie is a Quirky, Brown Life Icon because she displays her passion for art from the top of her braids to soles of her amazingly styled shoes.

Be a witness to Teff, The Don's amazing fashion sense:

Brown Love Stories: Shamiya and Tevin

February 13, 2015
Hello everyone! I am excited to introduce to you an amazingly cool couple, Shamiya, the writer behind Miya Loves, and her husband, Tevin. Shamiya and Tevin have been together since Shamiya was in middle school and have been happily married for 3 years! What a beautiful example of black love. Please enjoy their story!

1. Names (Hers and His) 
Shamiya and Tevin

2. Ages ( Hers and His) 
21 and 23

3. Length of relationship 
8 Years
Us on Christmas eve night, TIRED! Worn Out!
4. How did you two meet? 
We lived in the same apartment community for 3 years and never once saw eachother until the 3rd year.  
He would come and meet his cousin at my bus stop..(I was in the 8th grade and he was a 9th grader) Eventually we started hanging out with the same people.

5. What makes your relationship "quirky" or unique? 
We have been together since we were 14, so we have grown up together, we have changed together.. We got married 3 years ago and we continue to grow with one another.We love to be funny ! We literally chase eachother around the house some days. Or we race eachother upstairs lol we are just weirdos who like to have a beer together and be laid back and comedic with each other. 

6. What is one quirky habit that you have learned about him? 
Don't let this dude get the remote because he's either going to turn to FLIX,FX,FXX & He WILL watch the same movie like 3 times and say "I missed the ending.".or... "I missed the middle".or... "I missed the first 20 seconds"
The day we got married. My hair was a MESS after straightening it - I was a mess and he's being a goofball.
7. What is one quirky habit that you have learned about her? 
She won't let me clean up! She's a stay at home mom and I work..If I try to straighten up the house she will most likely tell me "stop cleaning! I'll do it! This is what I do here!" It's our house but she's the Queen of the castle!

8. Quirkiest moment and/or adventure? 
This story could probably be rated R. A couple years back, we went to a resort with a few of his family members. We weren't paying for the resort so we actually had to share one small room with them. I was 19 years old so this was before I got pregnant so I was worried about me,myself and I! When we got to the resort it was beautiful! We started drinking and eventually me and Tevin started to argue and disagree with eachother because he thought me and his older brother were being too "turntup". So anyway, we argued.. I ended up getting SO drunk that I was walking around the resort by myself-mad. That could have been a disaster in itself. Eventually, I ended up falling asleep on a pool chair LOL. This was a big resort so I'm pretty sure 1,000 people saw me sleeping at 7-8pm. After a while my husband found me and we ended up making up. We went back down stairs to the pool/beach and we were the only ones out there. It ended up being sooo romantic and RATCHET!  We ended up going into one of those enclosed gazebo's and having the time of our life in that damn gazebo! We sat out on the beach and watched the water. We put our feet in the pool and talked. It was literally the most romantic, ratchet, fun, wild night of my life & obviously he enjoyed the night as well! 
Us 3 years ago when we got married on Feb 3rd 2012.. It was pretty chaotic (my hair & makeup) but we made it through.
9. What will the back cover or your love story read.
Me: What would the back cover of our love story say?
Him: ::Pelvic thrusts:: ... hm, I don't know.... "The Chosen Ones"??

..I guess it would say "The Chosen ones"
Lol.


Make sure to check out Shamiya's blog as well as her social media sites.

Quirky, Brown Life Icon: Ragini Nag Rao

February 11, 2015
Quirky, Brown Life Iconsomeone who lives their life beyond the norm that is expected of them based on society's expectations. An inspiration, a breath of fresh air and a cool chick all around.

Meet Ragini. Ragini is the eccentric woman behind the blog, A Curious Fancy. On her blog, she showcases her amazingly chic and creative style. Her outfits all fit her self-proclaimed "fanciful and whimsical" spirit and she takes risks that other fashion bloggers have not. Ragini is a Quirky, Brown Life Icon because she is bold, daring and encourages her readers to be comfortable in their own skin. As a contributor to XO Jane, she has opened up about her abusive childhood, she explains why she has ditched her bra and tells about mishaps with dating others outside of her race.

Enjoy the many looks of Ms. Rao below:








Want to see more? Make sure to check out Ragini's blog, A Curious Fancy as well as her Facebook!

Know someone who should be featured as a Quirky, Brown Life Icon? Email me at quirkybrownlove@gmail.com.

9 Absolutely Quirky Valentine's Day Cards from AllyElleCards

February 11, 2015
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If you have not heard of AllyElleCards, please do yourself a favor and check out this amazing black-owned business on Etsy. All of these cards were created by the owner, Elle Lewis and her sense of humor is right up my alley. Would you buy any of these cards?

1. "I Love You Like Kanye Loves Kanye"- Just in time for the Grammy's.
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2. "You Had Me At Beard"
3. "You Bae As F*CK"- Sometimes you just gotta let him know
4. "Your Face. I Like That Sh*t"
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5. "You Two Go Together Like Netflix and Wondering Where Your Day Went."
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6. "You Dat Ish I Do Like"-oh, Chief Keef....
Chief Keef  Card-Funny ' I like you' greeting card
7. "You Are My Favorite Creeper"
8.  "No Big Deal"
Awkward love  card- This doesn't mean I like you
9."Besties Over Testes"- Had to throw this in for my single ladies out there!
Funny friendship card. Best friend card- "Besties before testes"

Make sure to check out AllyElleCards on Etsy!

Quirky, Brown Life Icon: Mo Handahu

February 06, 2015
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Quirky, Brown Life Icon: someone who lives their life beyond the norm that is expected of them based on society's expectations. An inspiration, a breath of fresh air and a cool chick all around.
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Meet Mo Handahu. Mo is the creative, quirky soul behind the blog Lion Hunter, a well organized hub for everything fashion. She named her blog "Lion Hunter" because of the meaning of her last name, Handahu. Mo is a Quirky, Brown Life Icon not only because of her impeccable and fearless style, but because of her "go-get-it" attitude. She is constantly featured on the Fashion Magazine Style Panel, she is a STYLELIST Content Curator, and the creator of her shop, Clutch Culture

Fall in love with Mo with the pictures I have posted below (hey, that rhymes lol):

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Want to see more? Make sure to check out Mo's Blog, Lion Hunter as well as her Instagram!

Know someone who should be featured as a Quirky, Brown Life Icon? Email me at quirkybrownlove@gmail.com.

How The Producers of O.T. Genesis' "In Love With The Coco" are Single-handedly Ruining The Black Community (Thoughtful Thursday)

February 05, 2015
I have been wanting to write this post for a long time. Before I get started, I would like to start off by saying that this is not suppose to be a hateful post, but a post on my opinion on the paramount significance that this song has on the black community.

As a society (from an American standpoint), the media has made a lot of things more acceptible and we have become desensitized to a lot of things as well.  As much as we don't like to think about it, the media has a large effect on our lives. For example, why do you think trends become trends? Why do girls dress with less and tighter clothing every year? What made high-waisted shorts come back? Why are we told that guys have to like beer and girls have to like mai-tais? Why do you have beer, wings and dip at every superbowl party? You may say, "because I just like it and everyone else happens to like it too" but it could also be because these things are marketed at all of us and you have gotten to a point that it is just normal. It all becomes "the norm".

So, to whom is the media trying to market "In Love With the Coco", a song about cocaine? Turn to a Top Hits radio station, listen all day and you will never hear this song. Now, turn to your local Hip Hop and R&B radio station. You will hear this song every hour on the hour. It doesn't take research to know that "In Love With the Coco" is a Billboard Hot 100 hit (actually peaked at 23). So, why is it not played on Top Hit radio?
When I first heard the song, my mouth dropped as he proceeded to tell me that he loves cocaine and that he got it for a cheap price. Then he tells us that one of the ingredients is baking soda that needs to be whipped in a glass bowl, but if you don't know how to make it, at least know how much to ask for ("36, that's a kilo"). 
As if the song lyrics weren't bad enough, the video leaves nothing for the imagination.  The video shows O.T. Genesis actually making what looks like cocaine. It also shows guns, lots of money and worst of all, marijuana.

Why is it worst of all that they show marijuana and cocaine in the same video? Because of this constant comparision, people loop together weed, which is a plant and cocaine, which is a harmful substance that needs to be cooked and is proven to have several adverse effects on health. Also, marijuana is legal in some American states and is also used for therapuetic reasons (Glaucoma, ADHD, seizures, etc.). The cocaine that most people find on the streets usually is not pure cocaine and usually includes even more harmful toxins, hints the street name of 'crack cocaine' because it is not pure.
Did you know that of all of the people in prison in the USA, 51% are in for drug related charges and 32% have drug possession as their highest offense? (Source 1 and Source 2 based on 2013 statistics). 

So, how exactly are the producers of "In Love With The Coco" single-handedly ruining the black community? I will break it down for you:

1. Do you know how much work and money it takes to get a song put on the radio? Yes, songs typically do well if they have a great beat and a catchy hook, which this song definitely has; however, that alone isn't going to get a song on the radio. In order to get a top hit song on the large commercial radio stations, you need a large budget, lots of contacts and a lot of people to say yes. So in order for us to hear "In Love With The Coco", someone had to first write the song, find someone to rap the song, pay for countless studio hours and have someone produce the song. Already, that is a whole company worth of people who thought that this song was a great idea. Then this song had to get promoted across the country to different radio stations and media companies, which took millions of marketing dollars, press releases and effort to do.

2. Now that this song is on the radio and has a video that compares cocaine to marijuana, there are more people out there, kids especially, who think that cocaine is just another thing to try. It has the potential to become a norm and I bet that drug dealers are selling more cocaine because of this song.

3. Weed has a potential to become legalized everywhere within the next few elections. Cocaine, on the other hand, has zero potential of being legal in this lifetime. So, since the legal system will not be able to lock people up for marijuana possession in the near future, why don't we get everyone addicted to crack so that we don't lose our funding nor our prison work force! Also, the prison sentence for crack is higher than that of weed, so there would be less turnover rate. There are so many corporations benefiting from cheap $0.50/hour prison labor that the USA would go into the deepest depression it's ever seen without it. (Don't believe me? Check out this list).

Putting our people in prison is one of the things that is ruining the black community. Once someone has been put it prison, they either have a misdemeanor or felony and are unable to get a real career or rent an apartment because of it. Working full time minimum wage in my state will only get you $15,080 a year, BEFORE TAX. In order to rent an apartment, you need to make 3x your rent and then factor in children and living. 

Some people may say that I am crazy and that this is just a song, and that is okay since everyone is entitled to their opinion; however, I know that the media doesn't do anything without reason. Why do you think songs like "In Love With The Coco" and "Pop The Molly, I'm Sweatin'" have been played constantly, yet the songs of more decent rappers are never played? Part of the same reason that the only brown people glorified on TV are the ones trying to rap or play basketball, fighting and cursing or sleeping with someone's husband.

So, what do we do about it? 

Brown Love Stories: Kriselle and Darrell

February 04, 2015
Hello, everyone! I am super excited to introduce to you a cute couple that I sought out to present to you today! Meet Kriselle, the blogger behind the blog Livin' and Lovin', and her boyfriend, Darrell. I am such a big fan of Kriselle's blog, so when I saw that she had a boyfriend, I had to ask her to be on my blog. I hope that you enjoy!

1. Name (hers and his) 
Kriselle & Darell

2. Age (hers and his)
20 and 22

3. Length of Relationship
4.5 years 

4. How did you two meet? 
Also, please include your links to social media if you would like!
We met at church through his cousin that invited him. Neither of us liked each other in that way when we first met, but over time as we got to know each other, that obviously changed, haha. Actually, I'm the one who initiated things! If you want to read the full, novel-style version of how we met & started dating, you can find that here


5. What makes your relationship "quirky" or unique? 
 Kriselle: What makes our relationship quirky are our inside jokes, most definitely. We have weird pet names for each other (he calls me a cozy banana, what?) and sometimes we'll have weird/stupid code words for things. When we talk about these things in public I feel like we're the weirdest people in the world but I love it because only he can get me and vice versa. 
Darell: Me & Kriselle's relationship is unlike any other and its nearly impossible to describe to someone from an outside perspective, we can truly be bestfriends/worstenemies to biggest fans/harshest critics.

6. What is one quirky habit that you have learned about him? 
 Man, this is a hard one... I'm not sure if I can pin point just one! Well, I guess I would have to say that sometimes I will do or say something really cheesy but sometimes Darell will go along with it and sometimes do it too! He works very hard to portray a certain image to the outside world that when he acts in these ways with me I almost fall in love with him more because it's different than how he normally is. He continues to surprise me every day. 
7. What is one quirky habit that you have learned about her? 
Surprisingly she eats a lot despite her small size.

8. Quirkiest moment and/or adventure?  
Kriselle: There isn't anything specific that comes to mind, but it's something along the lines of our food runs either to random places (like driving nowhere in particular and just deciding to find the nearest Island's) or at random times (going to the grocery store at 1 o'clock in the morning) and when we use video game references to get through life (like how he encouraged me recently by comparing our relationship to the weapons in a video game we used to play when we first started dating). 
Darell: A recent favorite memory was working black friday with her then just hanging out shopping, then going to Islands that night and ending the night with a movie. We were at the mall for 15 hours.

9. What will the back cover or your love story read. 
 "When you looked at their relationship as a whole, you would find yourself frequently asking, who would put themselves through all this crap for one person? But then you take a step back and look at all that 'crap' and realize how strong they've become in the process. They're here to prove them all wrong." 

Don't forget to check out Kriselle's blog as well as her social media sites.


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