black girl in America, there is a 90% chance that you have heard someone say this, according to the hashtag, #HowItFeelsToBeABlackGirl. The sad thing is that you most likely heard this comment from a Black man that you know. In the recent decade, having curves has been popular for people of all ethnic backgrounds, including White women who are stereotyped for preferring a slimmer figure.
So how are you suppose to react to the comment, "You better watch out because these White girls are starting to get thick out here"? Do you just brush it off? Or do you respond to it firmly and get told that you are insecure or an "angry, Black women"? There is no good way to respond to a comment that shouldn't have been said in the first place.
Why as a Black woman should my self-worth be determined by the pants size of my non-Black friends?
Comments like these are why people assume that Black men and Black women don't get along and perpetuate the perceived stereotype that a Black men prefer White women. It suggests that the only reason that a Black man would choose to date a Black woman is because she has a fuller backside, not because her thoughts are stimulating and her beauty is radiant. This also aids to the stereotype that features that are prominent to Black women look better on White women (Kylie Jenner tried it with her dreads and lip injections).
The thought that a Black woman's worth is dependent on how her body looks is not something new. It dates back to African practices, slavery days and is embedded in hip hop culture. For someone reason, people feel the need to undermine the power and beauty of Black women by subjecting us to sexist practices.
So, in short. If a White woman decides that she wants to invest her time and calories into getting her preferred figure, that's none of my business and in no way determines my self-worth.
What are your thoughts?